« Christianity at Work | Main | Good Idea / Bad Idea »
August 13, 2005
Thoughts
The tragic killing of a corrections officer in Tennessee this week has been on my mind the last couple of days. With my brain munching so heavily, I know sleep will be impossible until I put my thoughts into logical sentences.
The photos taken in court of the woman accused of killing Officer Morgan and her husband today haunt me. I would like to say I am a just person, that I believe in the philosophy of American justice, innocent until proven guilty in a court of law, but I'm afraid more often it's just not true of me. I had drawn stereotypes already, even before seeing the pictures, he was manipulative and cocky, she was gullible, scared and in love. The media has provided me ample evidence to declare my verdict, guilty as charged.
I read the reports of their court appearances, his decision to fight extradition. He made a comment about not wanting to go without her, and for a second I thought I saw the hint of a redeeming quality in him. Maybe his brother was right in saying he was a loving person. Does he love her? Is his behavior consistent with "love"?
When a man loves a woman, does he allow her to jeopardise her career, her childrens welfare, her motherhood, her freedom, and even her life for ANY reason? How about for a reason that, at best, affords him a few short hours of freedom? He put her in a position where she was being shot at by Law Enforcement officers, she is lucky to be alive tonight. But, he doesn't want to leave Ohio without her, how sweet. I'm sure the powers-that-be are making every effort to keep the two of them from having contact, he can offer her little in the way of support, so what does staying in Ohio mean for him? It means nothing, not one thing. He neither gains nor looses anything by staying in Ohio. He is already a convicted felon, stuck in prison for the next 30 some years, this was his fifth escape from custody, I can't imagine there is any consideration for good behavior coming his way. What did he really say in that Ohio courtroom? "I've got nothing to loose, I'm stuck in prison anyway, I may as well enjoy a change in scenery".
Another observation, her family seems to know a lot about him, and her feelings for him. They've spoken on the phone with him, even her young children have spoken on the phone with him. I've seen no mention of her by his family (unless what they have to say is just not being reported in the news). Did he tell them about her? Did he tell his mother he'd gotten married? Has his brother noticed a change in him since she came along?
I think though, what bothers me the most is this nagging question in the back of my head. "What is so broken inside this woman, that she would make such bad decisions?" Since reading Alice Miller's book "For Your Own Good" my understanding of human behavior has broadened. Unlike Dr. Laura, I do not believe that behaviors are more important than feelings. Healthy feelings result in healthy behaviors, unhealthy behaviors ranging from the common to the horrific are a symptom of a damaged emotional core.
This woman will face the consequences of her bad decisions, in a sense paying "stupid tax", possibly with her life. Perhaps she would rather die than live without this man, would rather leave her children motherless than live without him. Perhaps the books and made-for-tv movies are already in the works and will provide us with an explanation. Perhaps I will sleep well tonight and tomorrow there will be other topics of interest for my brain to munch on.
Posted by Anna at August 13, 2005 3:58 AM
Comments
The fact however uncomfortable it may be to accept, is that bodybuilders in general are pound for pound the leanest athletes on the planet.
Posted by: machshamy at November 29, 2007 3:35 PM
Всем хай! Извините, если не в тему, я плохо ориентируюсь в разделах форума. Не удаляйте страничку, а перенесите ее в нужный раздел, если что ) Спасибо за понимание! Дело в том, что я хочу поднять тему для обсуждения очень насущную. Я заказал в магазине kenwoods.ru автомагнитолу, а мне мало того что ничего не сообщили о поступившем заказе, так еще и на имейл не отвечают.. Или автомагнитола kenwood уже не такой особый заказ ? У вас не было таких случаев ?
Posted by: Koodnew at April 6, 2009 9:28 AM